What self love really means and why you need it
Let’s talk about self love.
You might be rolling your eyes right now and wanting to click away, but please bear with me for a few minutes.
True self love doesn’t mean that you have to look in the mirror every day and think you’re beautiful and amazing and perfect and never again have a moment of doubt about your goals, dreams, looks or whatever.
True self love is:
Knowing that you’re worthy of good things in life.
Taking the time to heal yourself when you’re struggling.
Being kind to and patient with yourself, even when you’ve failed.
Knowing that there’s no shame in NOT being okay sometimes.
Valuing yourself enough to ask for help when you need it.
Understanding that your weight, height, ethnicity, hair or lack of hair, skin condition, cellulite, stretch marks, or any other part of your appearance, does not determine your worth.
Believing that mental illness does not make you less lovable.
Realizing that you can wear whatever the hell you want without the need to explain yourself.
Taking care of your body, not punishing it.
Knowing that outside validation isn’t necessary for happiness.
Treating yourself to a day of sitting around in your pajamas and eating pizza without feeling guilty.
Remembering that you bring something to this world that nobody else can.
That, my friend, is self love.
In the words of Kamal Ravikant, “Love yourself like your life depends on it.” Your life truly does depend on it. If you spend all of your days criticizing yourself and taking note of all of your “flaws” you’ll never be happy. In fact you’ll experience some extreme lows. When self hate has failed you, it’s time to try something different.
Give yourself the love you deserve, and start today. Not when you lose (or gain) 20 pounds, not when you get that dream job, not when you start dating someone who appreciates you. Now.
The sooner you start, the sooner you’ll find out that self hate, doubt, judgment and shame weighs you down terribly. When you give up what weighs you down, you will rise above so many of your obstacles and do things that you never thought possible.
Love yourself and all is coming.